Feb 20, 2008 - 04:05:43 CST
Bismarck police investigated three domestic assaults that lead to felony charges over the weekend.Three men were arrested in the separate incidents. Another report remains under investigation, Lt. Randy Ziegler said.
n Joel Byzewski, 30, was charged with Class C felony terrorizing and Class B misdemeanor simple assault.
South Central District Judge Bruce Haskell set bond for Byzewski at $1,500 cash at the request of Burleigh County Assistant State's Attorney Justin Schwarz. Haskell ordered Byzewski to have no contact with the alleged victim.
Byzewski has been accused of assaulting and threatening a 23-year-old Bismarck woman who is pregnant with his child last week.
Ziegler said officers spoke to the woman, who they found hiding in a gas station bathroom in Bismarck while Byzewski was in the parking lot, around 4 a.m. Saturday.
The woman said Byzewski had been assaulting her for several days. She had bite marks on her back and her leg, bruises on her head and lip and a lump on her head.
Ziegler said a medical examination also revealed a subchorionic hematoma on the woman's uterus that possibly was caused by trauma.
The woman said Byzewski had been threatening to take her out by some tractors, rendering her unconscious, then leaving her to die under a tractor, Ziegler said. She said Byzewski did not want their baby, wanted her to have an abortion, and threatened to kill her and the child, Ziegler said.
The police report did not say how long the woman has been pregnant nor the condition of the baby.
n James Pennington, 51, was charged with Class Cfelony aggravated assault.
Haskell set bond for Pennington at $1,500 cash or surety and ordered him to have no contact with the woman.
Pennington is accused of covering his 51-year-old wife's mouth and nose during an argument early Tuesday morning, Ziegler said. He said Pennington's wife said the argument occurred after Pennington had been drinking all day. She said she fell out of a chair when he covered her mouth and nose, and he fell on her.
She went to a Bismarck hospital complaining of back pain from the incident.
Pennington told Haskell he has a medical condition that caused his behavior.
n Edward Smith, 43, was charged with Class Cfelony aggravated assault.
Haskell set bond for him at $5,000 cash. Smith said he is from Chicago and has been in Bismarck less than two weeks. He said he plans to demand a speedy trial. Haskell advised him to speak to an attorney.
Smith has been accused of trying to strangle his girlfriend while they stayed at a Bismarck hotel.
The woman, 34, said Smith was angry because she was planning to give her tax return to her sister, who has custody of the woman's child, Ziegler said.
She said Smith bit her leg and strangled her until she had trouble breathing.
n Police were called to southwest Bismarck at 11:56 p.m. Friday for a domestic dispute.
A 23-year-old Bismarck woman said she had been assaulted by her ex-boyfriend after he came to her home, Ziegler said.
He said the woman reported she and the 37-year-old Bismarck man argued through the screen door, then he opened the screen door and tried to strangle her.
The woman said she slapped him several times until he let her go, then she and a 28-year-old Bismarck woman, who also was at the home, pushed him out the door, Ziegler said.
He said the man was not located by police at the scene and has not been arrested.
(Reach reporter Jenny Michael at 250-8225 or jenny.michael@bismarcktribune.com.)

JP wrote on Feb 27, 2008 11:44 PM:
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a new reader wrote on Feb 27, 2008 11:29 PM:
WOW wrote on Feb 27, 2008 10:25 PM:
Been there wrote on Feb 27, 2008 9:07 PM:
just a question wrote on Feb 27, 2008 6:42 PM:
Thank you for your comments. I am happy I have brought this discussion up. Just seeing that there are others out there makes me feel proud to speak out for the rest of the men that have been abused. Trust me, it took me some time to get to a point to talk about my situation to others. It took more time to be able to speak my mind as this is such a delicate matter. Please do share with your Son as he needs to know he is not alone and not to be afraid to talk. Thanks again for taking the time to comment and share your story.
To: JP
Thanks for your comments as well. You also made a good point about the the laws and services being designed to help women as well as the info campaigns. Like you said, men are told to suck it up and maybe this is why more do not come forward about their abuse. I feel the reason why the statistics for women being abused is so high because of that fact. Men just simply do not come forward with it because they are either (A) Afraid to call the police for fear they will be arrested or (B) They are afraid they will be made fun of because a women beat them up. You are right though, we cannot just ignore the abused mans needs. This has gone on for too long.
Thanks to all who have left comments about this discussion. Better late than never to bring it up. "
JP wrote on Feb 27, 2008 8:55 AM:
JUST ME wrote on Feb 27, 2008 6:20 AM:
I do think the law should be the same for man or woman but, how do you prove anything unless you put in a video cam, and then will it catch everything?
Good luck to "just a question" and all men reading these comments, that are being abused. I am printing this out to give to my son so he knows there are other men out there that have the same problem. "
Step up and be a REAL man! wrote on Feb 27, 2008 12:54 AM:
just a question wrote on Feb 26, 2008 6:36 PM:
There is no argument that the law is not on the side of the man and yes it is unfortunate because most men are raised to not hit women. Maybe that is the abused mans downfall. I myself was raised that way, I still went to jail. I agree that most of the time men are stronger but how many of the times was the man stronger and the women made up a story saying that she was the one being abused. This happened to me. I think this happens more times than we would ike to think. Although I was smaller than my ex, I was able to still defend myself by holding her wrist so she could no longer hit me. I think society is caught up in the image of the guy always being the abuser because of everything the society sees on television. Think of it like this, if we constantly watched women abusing guys on television, would we see it as the opposite of today? Like I have said before, I take this issue and am very defensive about it because all we see and hear is all about the women being abused. Personally, by watching this post, I have seen more and more cases of the guy being abused. Why is that? Is it because I myself started talking about it and they are seeing that? Is it the fact that more and more guys are starting to get tired of the image? We may never know. I myself however want to share my stories because I am tired of seeing that image all the time. "
Let's talk FACTS wrote on Feb 26, 2008 5:53 PM:
no name wrote on Feb 26, 2008 5:51 PM:
Been there wrote on Feb 26, 2008 2:37 PM:
big dog's mamma wrote on Feb 26, 2008 8:15 AM:
" Hey All! Just remember, "this is a great place to live' and "this is a great place to raise a family"
Ha ha haaaaaa!! "
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Where one lives has nothing to do with the situation one is in! Bismarck-Mandan IS a great place to live! The laws are really no different here than any other place. Here again, I would say to you, if you do not like living here, please move somewhere that suits you better. Or if you do not like the laws, then find a way to change them. Sittiing at a computer and bitching about life in Mandan-Bismarck will get you nowhere! "
William Tell wrote on Feb 26, 2008 7:42 AM:
a reader wrote on Feb 25, 2008 11:14 PM:
just a question wrote on Feb 25, 2008 7:03 PM:
Yes this is a bad situation for your son to be in. I started out almost the same way. My ex would get violent after drinking and I just figured I could deal with that. This was only the beginning however. Eventually I was going to work in long sleeve shirts and turtle necks just to hide the scratched and bruises. It is harder to confront someone however when you are a guy. The reason for that is because as a guy, it is always assumed that you are the one that is causing the problem. I dont know how the cops are around here as my situation happened in Minot. If its anything like Minot, they take the womens side most of the time. I have since moved to the Bismarck, Mandan area to start a new life. I of course had a bad rep in Minot after the situation because the rumor was spread by her that I was the abusive one. Now, I am with someone who truly cares about me and am happy as I can be.
Your son needs to realize that the beating will never stop and that he needs to get out of the situation. It may be hard for him at first with the child however times do get better after realizing the beatings are not worth it. This is not only the case for men though, This is the same for anyone that has been in an abusive relationship. "
Tom wrote on Feb 25, 2008 3:43 PM:
JUST ME wrote on Feb 25, 2008 7:56 AM:
Yes, I know it happens to men! My son is in such a situation. His girl friend gets abusive when she drinks..... I have told him, do not touch her! Because you know well enough that she will call the police on YOU! I tell him to call them when she gets abusive but, there is not much proof as he never has any marks on himself, it usually starts with her pulling hair and escalates from there. I tell him to get rid of her but, with a small child, he does not know what to do. Bad situation to be in! He does call her parents when she starts to act up and her dad comes and gets her but, they never try to get her to seek help for her problem. And I do think that drugs or alclhol are a part of these problems.
Any man that is in an abusive relationship should LEAVE or kick the perp out! There really is no other solution as she will claim HE did something and the police will believe her before him! "
a reader wrote on Feb 24, 2008 11:51 PM:
just a question wrote on Feb 24, 2008 9:51 PM:
My circumstances were about the same except there were kids also in the mix. Kids I viewed as my own because I took care of them while their abusive mother went to school. I often get very defensive about this subject because of the fact that it is always the women that are being defended and never the guy.
The last time I put up with my situation was the time I went to jail for defending myself. Because she had marks around her wrist from me holding her so she could not hit me any longer, I was taken to jail. It didnt matter I had bite marks, scratches and bruises all over my body. The fact is, when the cop looked at me and called me a liar to my face then carted me off to jail because I was a guy and there was no way that I could have been the one to be abused.
Doesnt anyone ever question why there is no where for a guy to go when he is abused. There is no shelter for guys that have been abused. There are no commercials about guys being abused. The only thing I ever see in a channel listing on tv is about a women being abused and there never will be anything about a guy being abused,
I am sorry for these women that have been abused because I know how it feels. When is it going to come to a point however when its not only about the women being abused. "
been there wrote on Feb 24, 2008 8:48 PM:
No name wrote on Feb 24, 2008 6:42 PM:
Mary Sue wrote on Feb 24, 2008 3:52 PM:
just a question wrote on Feb 24, 2008 2:39 PM:
friend wrote on Feb 21, 2008 9:19 PM:
a woman can become so afraid of charging a man with the assault (and sometimes with good reason) that he walks away and repeats the crime
The victim should have at least one mandatory counseling session with an
Abused Person counselor.
I agree that a front page Sunday paper article about victims and options would be helpful and informative "
REX wrote on Feb 21, 2008 7:41 PM:
To Standing Tall wrote on Feb 21, 2008 3:25 PM:
Concerned wrote on Feb 21, 2008 9:39 AM:
SE Forty wrote on Feb 21, 2008 9:02 AM:
Amanda wrote on Feb 20, 2008 8:14 PM:
It's too bad they set the bond so low on 2 of them, especially when one was beating a pregnant woman with what sounds like the intent to kill their unborn child. That monster should still be locked up! "
SNAP! wrote on Feb 20, 2008 8:04 PM:
Ha ha haaaaaa!! "
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oh my goodness!! wrote on Feb 20, 2008 11:01 AM:
start trouble ehre you won't get into trouble or do any hard time. "
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